Tuesday, June 18, 2013

It's Official...

We are now registered foster/adoptive parents in the state of Idaho.

     Until now, we haven't told very many people - just family. But since you may see us packing around another child sometime in the future, we figure it needs to be public.

     First, what does this mean? Well, it means that if there is a child between 0-2 years old that needs a foster home in our area, the Department of Health and Welfare will call us and ask if we are willing and able to take that child into our home for an undetermined amount of time. It could be anywhere from a few hours to a few years. During this time the child's case worker will try to contact family members for the child, to see if there is "next of kin" with which to place them, since with family is generally the best place for a child. (Generally. Not always.) If not, we get to care for the child while case workers work with his or her parents. If, after given an ample number of chances, the parents refuse or are unable to take the necessary steps in order to make their home safe for their child, the child will be eligible for adoption, and we will be asked if we would like to make the child a permanent member of our family.

     Why in the world are you doing this? Let me just say it's kind of an interesting story. Here is the watered down version: In October of last year Sam and I were listening to General Conference, and we were struck by this talk by Elder Dallin H. Oaks. We each, individually, felt like we needed to do something to help. After quite a bit of discussion, and even more prayer, we decided that what the Lord would have us do for now is become foster parents. So we went through a 27-hour-long training course, got fingerprinted, filled out tons of paperwork, and here we are - licensed foster parents.  

     Are you thinking of the repercussions for your own children? Of course our first concern, as parents, is about our own children. We were able to make a decision on the ages of children we will care for, and we decided on 0-2 years old (for now). We are also able to refuse any placements that we feel could potentially be harmful to our kids. 

     Do you understand all the implications that come with being a foster parent? In theory, yes. My parents were foster parents for a little while while I lived at home, and I observed much of what it takes. Like I mentioned before, we also attended a training course that informed us of many of the possible difficulties of being a foster parent. It is emotionally, mentally, and physically draining. I'm sure, even with all the things we have learned so far, that there will still be surprises. But we are ready.

     Are you doing it for the money? Absolutely not. We don't want anyone to be confused as to our motives for doing this. To be honest, when we signed up I didn't even know families were given a small compensation during the time a foster child is staying in their home. And by small compensation, I mean small. The money given is simply to help feed, clothe, and diaper the child. 

     Are you crazy? Maybe! We have wondered the same thing! But we just keep reminding ourselves that when the Lord tells you to do something, you do it. He knows what is best for us, as well as His other children, and we would be wise to listen to Him.

     It could be a long time before we get a call, but we look forward to being able to help any of God's children who are in need of a safe place, even if it is only for a little while.

     If you have any other questions, feel free to ask!



  1. I couldn't imagine a better, more loving home for distressed children to go to. Congratulations!

  2. I didn't know you were finished. Now the waiting begins . . .

    And those kids have no idea how lucky they are if they get placed with you guys. But I do.

  3. This is so awesome, Heidi! I love that you're doing this. Some really good friends of mine in high school took in foster kids in their family and I loved seeing how happy it made both them and the children to be a "family" in a happy, functional home. They took anything from infants to 5-year-olds and during their kids' high school years had taken in maybe a dozen kids, sometimes siblings. They always grew to love each other so much and I know they made a huge difference in those kids' lives. It was always sad not knowing when they'd have to leave, because like you said, some where there for one day, others for over 2 years! I think it's an amazing way to help take care of God's children when you are able. So happy for and proud of you!

  4. Congratulations! What lucky children they will be to be placed in your home. Service opportunities always bring such wonderful blessings. I will be anxious to hear how it goes.

  5. Wow, big decision! This is a great way to follow the counsel in General Conference. I'm glad everything has worked out!

  6. This is awesome: "But we just keep reminding ourselves that when the Lord tells you to do something, you do it." Love your faith...and really if you are doing it for the reason you stated, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks! hugs, cathy


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